What is love?

Love is: Giving people the benefit of the doubt when they do things or say words that offend you, or even when it is giving you a cold shoulder or silence.

Most of the time, people don't really mean what they say or do, or even what they don't say or don't do.

Love is giving space to others, when you know they need it. It's also being willing to be the lesser person, to 'esteem others better than yourself'.

Love is letting go, even if they can't.

Love is knowing when to say yes, and when to say no. And when to not say anything.

Love is knowing when you're wrong, or when you're right. But mostly when you're wrong.

Love is compromise and accomodation. And understanding other's communication style.

It's like a yard stick and a ruler. Both do the same things, they measure lengths. Both do it the same way, yet differently. So which is the better one? It really depends on each and every situation, isn't it. Every situation is unique and calls for different ways of dealing with it. And sometimes, both are correct, or one may be the wiser choice, or both are wrong for the situation.

That's when you call in the flexicurve and the measuring tapes..a whole new method that measures in the same way, yet differently.

I was just reflecting on this, due to the different people I've interacted and encountered in this past half a year. Some people, I've misjudged; some people, misjudged me. And some, I just observed them misjudging one another. Friendships, relationships, families..

Let's be more gracious to everyone..after all the ones who hurt you the most are usually the closest to you..

True colours. Show me a smile.

Phil Collins - "True Colors":



I see your true colors
Shining through
I see your true colors
And that's why I love you
So don't be afraid to let them show
Your true colors
True colors are beautiful

You with the sad eyes
Don't be discouraged
Oh I realize
It's hard to take courage
In a world full of people
You can lose sight of it all
And the darkness, inside you
Makes you feel so small

And I see your true colors
Shining through
I see your true colors
And that's why I love you
So don't be afraid to let them show
Your true colors
True colors are beautiful,
Like a rainbow

Show me a smile then
Don't be unhappy, can't remember
When I last saw you laughing
If this world makes you crazy
And you've taken all you can bear
Just call me up
Because you know I'll be there

And I'll see your true colors
Shining through
I see your true colors
And that's why I love you
So don't be afraid to let them show
Your true colors
True colors are beautiful,
Like a rainbow

God.

God will make a way,
When there seems to be no way
He works in ways, we cannot see
He will make a way for me

He will be my guide,
Hold me closely to His side
He works in ways, we cannot see
He will make a way, He will make a way

Haiti

I'm sure by now, everyone would have heard about the massive destruction in Haiti, caused by the 7.0 magniture earthquake. In summary, the whole country seems to be flattened. Almost every building including hospitals, the UN headquarters, and the presidential palace collapsed, 3 million (one-third of their total population) affected..

My heart just breaks to see all the suffering. It's times like these, that make me wish I was trained medically, so that I could go there and do something. Or that I was working already, so that I could donate to the various charities and the mission teams aiding the situation.

It's really changed my perspective in life. Now I Really know the importance of mission teams; they're the manpower and ones who can really get to the ground zero, and make a direct difference.

I used to casually think, "I should go on a mission trip some time in my life, when I have the finances and time". Now, I'm Determined to go on a mission trip, once I can save up from working full-time, and use my leave towards that. I don't know, maybe it's a very foolish thought, given that I have neither the brawn (strength) to offer, nor medical expertise to be of help, so I don't know if I'll be better off donating the money instead. Anyway, I'll think about it again when the time comes (and of course pray about what I should/can do).

Nostalgia

I was looking through my old photos..lots of photographs that were taken in the recent years..

I realised I've changed in appearance (duh)..in my opinion for the better..haha..and along with the external, were also internal changes..in my character and personality..

A wave of nostalgia and memories hit me..having a really warm fuzzy feeling now lol..like a peace and a joy overflowing in my heart, and that every burden and everything will be all right..

2010 will be my best year yet! :)

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Thinking of some new things (that I've always wanted to do) to embark on..whee..

2009 Reflections

All my exams are over, and I've finished serving backstage for Christmas drama..:)

I'm happy with how everything is finally 'settling' itself as the year ends..

Well, 2009 has been one of the most challenging years of my life, up to this point..

Kind of amazed that I made it through to the end..thanks to support and encouragement from friends/family etc..

I really don't know how else would I have done it..

There were of course some highlights, but there were many many valleys this year..sometimes so deep I really couldn't see any way out..

Thank God I made it! :)

I'm really looking forward to a better new year in 2010. There's a lot of things I need to do, a lot of 'new' beginnings..such as most pertinently, hunting for a full-time job..

My first priority is Job fulfillment or satisfaction. I don't want to work for the sake of it, I want to do something which I won't have 'wasted' my life giving my time to, just for the sake of money..

Priority list for job hunt:
1) Job fulfillment/satisfaction
2) Job environment
3) Hours (can't clash with church and family)
4 & 5) Pay and Location
6) Prospect

2010: The word 'future' is really appealing to me now..I can't wait to meet this new year, with brand new days and things! Goodbye, 2009..

Happy with the way my ministries are back and running again, after my short hiatus..I need direction and vision for the coming year!

I've got a few plans for 2010, but still keeping the drawing board open for new things to come..it's going to be a fantastic year! :)

Thank you to every person that has impacted me in my life this year..especially the ones that encourage me when I'm a little grey storm-cloud..

2010: To a Fantastic & Fabulous Future! And beyond! :D

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New year's resolution? Fulfill getting a great job.

Will update in time to come. :)

All I want for Christmas..

...is peace of mind, and rest.

My only priority now is to get life back in the balance..

I've become very flabby (in many ways) in the past month(s)..

Time to cut down on what needs to be cut down, and gear up what needs to be geared up...

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I feel so broke :(